Do you have a dream? Are you going after it? If not… why not?
Life is too short. Going after your dream does not mean you have to quit your job (even if that is your dream)… it just means you should have some sense of what you want out of life and EACH day you should be able to articulate how that day helped you get to your dream.
Even if you are only taking BABY steps to your dream… you are doing more than most. One thing is for SURE… your dream is not going to come knocking on your door and surprise you… You have to chase after it. It will not chase you.
Here are the steps to climbing your K2:
Make a list of the things you want to do.
Get a motorcycle?
Get your pilorts license?
Run a marathon?
Get a PHd?
There is literally NO reason NOT to achieve goals like the ones above. Why? Because the steps to knocking these types of goals out are well documented. It is not to say that it is easy. But, just to say that IF you want it bad enough there is no reason not to have it (or be on the path to getting it).
Schedule it! Google calendar rocks. Do some research to understand the steps involved in achieving your dream. Then break those steps down in to a calendar of events. This calendar should reflect your REAL life. Don’t plan to run a marathon in a month if you have never ran and you don’t have but two weekends to train.
Start with big milestones and then work your way back into daily or every-other-day goals. Set monthly and weekly goals. Then AIM FOR THE DAILY GOALS. Don’t worry about the monthly or weekly goals. Only concern yourself with the daily goals. Your PLAN will ensure that by achieving your daily goals you achieve your big goals.
When your friends or boss asks if you are busy - check your calendar. You may have an important commitment to your dreams. These items become the immovable rocks. It is really shocking how flexible the rest of your life can be. For more on this topic - see step 3.
Dump your old friends… Well not really but sort of. You have NOT achieved your goals yet right? So it is safe to say that doing whatever it is you do every day has not produce your dream out comes. Therefore - STOP doing what you are doing everyday it is NOT working.
It is time to start hanging out with people who are doing what you want to do. You can keep your old friends… I mean who are you going to brag to when you achieve your goals. But achieving a new goal is all about breaking old patterns. If you want to become a champion surfer and you live in Nebraska… then it is time to start planning your move to Hawaii. You are not going to be a awesome surfer by going to the same Nebraska bar with the same Nebraska friends.
You don’t need anyones approval to begin achieving your goals. It is hard enough to convince yourself you can do something… it is really hard if you NEED your friends to be convinced too.
Chances are high - none of your friends have achieved your goal. Because one, they don’t believe it is important. Or two, they lack the motivation to achieve it. These people cannot be the source of your motivation.
And it may be that your friends are not even people. You might be good friends with Facebook, Call of Duty, Twinkies, or your Marlboros. If these “friends” are not on your list of milestones to achieve your goal, then chances are you don’t have time for them. They are empty fillers between you and your goals. Get ticked off! Kick them out of your life.
NOTE: Keep the friends who are supportive and can help you achieve your goals. These are true friends.
Revise your list. If you have looked at the above 3 steps and made 15 excuses why you cannot do them… then be honest with yourself. You don’t really want that dream. It is a nice to have… not a gotta have.
You need to clear these items from your mind! Why? Because keeping that dream in your mind is just another reminder how you suck. It will be just one more thing you will never do (when you don’t really want to do it in the first place). It will produce drag on your life and keep you from achieving the goals that really matter.
Bottom line: Know your Gotta have’m dreams from your nice to have’m dreams. You don’t have time for anything but the Gotta have’ms.
For example: Your goal is to be a foreign missionary to the Sudan. But, you have kids and a wife. The Sudan may not allow you to drag them along. And your wife says she will divorce you if you leave for several months. Basically there is no way you can have a family and achieve your dream. Therefore (and not to be too harsh) one of these things has got to go.
Do you love your wife? Do you love your kids? Perhaps you can get a divorce and plan your move. But, if you love your kids and wife more than your dream… time to be honest. You have traded one dream for another - and that is OK.
Stop beating yourself up about being a missionary to the Sudan. Clear it from your list. It is OK. We make tons of choices everyday that eliminate other opportunities.
Don’t listen to the you can have it all crowd. They are are most likely trying to sell you a car or something that requires debt. You cannot have it all because in doing so you will suck at everything. Instead being great at a few things.
Now that you have a real list, a schedule, and real friends to support you it is time to execute your plan. When you STOP doing the things that do not support your dreams. You will find that you have tons more time and money.
Spend that money and time.
This is the best part of the entire process. Achieving your daily goals provides a tremendous sense of accomplishment. Each day will inspire you to go after the next small goal… and if you have planned well you will look up one day and be on the top of K2.